28 Dec Steps For Letting Go & Forgiving
This blog post was written by guest blogger, Darren L. Johnson. Darren L. Johnson is a life guide and author of the Letting Go of Stuff products. He works privately with people who want to make life-altering changes personally and professionally. He also teaches private and public Letting Go of Stuff workshops for companies and organizations. Visit his blog at www.LettingGoCafe.com.
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Letting go of stuff is easy to consider, but can be challenging to do. Right?
Nonetheless, letting go is very possible and extremely necessary. One of the major components to letting go of “stuff” is being able to forgive. Who do you forgive? It starts with yourself and ends with the forgiveness of others. Forgiveness leads to letting go.
Where do you begin?
First, start by accepting and acknowledging that you need to forgive someone. Yes! That is the first step. Simple enough – right? Include on your list of those you need to forgive – your “self.”
Take a moment and say to yourself, “Self, I forgive you for that “thing” you did three years ago. I forgive you for not reaching that goal. I forgive you for making a bad choice while in that past relationship. I forgive you for thinking you were perfect, and then acting like you weren’t. I forgive you for…”
Step Two – Make A List.
Once you are done with the above, which for some may take a while to get up the courage to complete. The next step is to make a list of those to whom you want to ask for forgiveness. Go ahead! Make your list. Don’t delay. You can do it in your head now, but then make sure to write down those names in your personal journal or somewhere special.
Step three – Get Permission.
Give yourself permission to forgive those on your list. Not only do you want to grant permission to – you, make sure to prepare yourself for the response of those with whom you actually have a physical conversation. Good. bad, or indifferent – be prepared to accept their response without judgment and with an open heart.
Step four – Make A Choice.
Decide to whom you need to speak in person and to whom you simply need/want to silently forgive in your heart. Begin with the latter group. This will pave the way for successful conversations with those you want to tell in person.
Step five – Do The Deed.
Do the forgiveness deed. In other words, begin the process of forgiving everyone on your list, one by one, with sincerity and a heartfelt genuineness.
You might find that as you go through this process of forgiveness, you will also begin to experience a greater love and appreciate for yourself. You will begin to more easily let go of other “stuff” in your life. Your confidence will grow. Also, the world will look better through your eyes. Your relationships will get a little deeper and your commitments will also broaden. It will also be easier for you to move forward with more passion and love because you will have made a space for those new experiences in your life.
Forgiveness is a cleansing process like no other and of all the people in the world – you deserve to experience it the most. Don’t you?
So, what are you waiting for? Get started today! I want to hear all about your experience.