Comments for Recovery Help Now http://recoveryhelpnow.com Just another WordPress site Thu, 20 Oct 2011 23:11:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.1 Comment on Befriending Anger with Meditation and Guided Imagery by elana http://recoveryhelpnow.com/2011/07/21/befriending-anger-with-meditation-and-guided-imagery/#comment-1237 elana Thu, 20 Oct 2011 23:11:04 +0000 http://recoveryhelpnow.com/?p=1305#comment-1237 It's hard to create time and space. But, if you don't it won't happen. I usually get up first thing in the morning, sit up in bed and immediately meditate for 5 -10 minutes a day. I don't have a lot of time or energy to do more than that. It works for me and it helps with balance in my life. I see a huge difference when I do it versus skipping my practice. I encourage you to take baby steps and make it work with your life style. Every bit helps. You can take random deep breathes throughout your day. You will see a difference. It’s hard to create time and space. But, if you don’t it won’t happen. I usually get up first thing in the morning, sit up in bed and immediately meditate for 5 -10 minutes a day. I don’t have a lot of time or energy to do more than that. It works for me and it helps with balance in my life. I see a huge difference when I do it versus skipping my practice. I encourage you to take baby steps and make it work with your life style. Every bit helps. You can take random deep breathes throughout your day. You will see a difference.

]]> Comment on Having Difficulty Solving Problems With Your Partner? by Andrew Anderson http://recoveryhelpnow.com/2011/05/07/having-difficulty-solving-problems-with-your-partner/#comment-877 Andrew Anderson Sat, 10 Sep 2011 05:59:43 +0000 http://recoveryhelpnow.com/?p=1024#comment-877 Rather educative appreciate it, I do think your trusty readers would possibly want even more posts along these lines maintain the good work. Rather educative appreciate it, I do think your trusty readers would possibly want even more posts along these lines maintain the good work.

]]> Comment on Befriending Anger with Meditation and Guided Imagery by Tia http://recoveryhelpnow.com/2011/07/21/befriending-anger-with-meditation-and-guided-imagery/#comment-865 Tia Thu, 08 Sep 2011 20:37:09 +0000 http://recoveryhelpnow.com/?p=1305#comment-865 I had problems with meditation up until recently. I kinda couldn't focus. I guess being focused is what matters and that's why meditating doesn't work for everyone. I found a quiet place for me in my apartment and that gave me the extra focus I needed. It's way easier now! I had problems with meditation up until recently. I kinda couldn’t focus. I guess being focused is what matters and that’s why meditating doesn’t work for everyone. I found a quiet place for me in my apartment and that gave me the extra focus I needed. It’s way easier now!

]]> Comment on My Qualifier by Elana Clark-Faler http://recoveryhelpnow.com/2010/12/17/my-qualifier/#comment-475 Elana Clark-Faler Fri, 24 Jun 2011 20:57:14 +0000 http://recoveryhelpnow.com/wordpress/?p=585#comment-475 You're right. All individuals must take responsibility for their own actions. Their partners and families aren't responsible for their drinking. The term "qualifier" is used in the sex and love addiction recovery program. Alcoholics are addicted to alcohol and sex and love addicts are addicted to patterns of behavior with people. Sex addicts typically don't see someone as an individual. They see potential partners to act out sexually. Love addicts are in search of an individual to flirt or intrigue with or play out their fantasies. That is why the SLAA 12-step program came up with the term, "qualifiers." Probably not the best word, because it objectifies or can dehumanize him or her. Sex and love addiction is tricky because we are dealing with patterns of behavior that play out in relationships with others, not patterns of behavior with substances. I hope that helps clarify the term. You’re right. All individuals must take responsibility for their own actions. Their partners and families aren’t responsible for their drinking.

The term “qualifier” is used in the sex and love addiction recovery program. Alcoholics are addicted to alcohol and sex and love addicts are addicted to patterns of behavior with people. Sex addicts typically don’t see someone as an individual. They see potential partners to act out sexually. Love addicts are in search of an individual to flirt or intrigue with or play out their fantasies. That is why the SLAA 12-step program came up with the term, “qualifiers.” Probably not the best word, because it objectifies or can dehumanize him or her.

Sex and love addiction is tricky because we are dealing with patterns of behavior that play out in relationships with others, not patterns of behavior with substances. I hope that helps clarify the term.

]]> Comment on Do You Over Think Or Obsess On Thoughts? by Cp http://recoveryhelpnow.com/2011/06/07/do-you-over-think-or-obsess-on-thoughts/#comment-428 Cp Mon, 20 Jun 2011 04:34:03 +0000 http://recoveryhelpnow.com/?p=1137#comment-428 I wish I had read this on Friday. Thanks I'll keep this in mind. I wish I had read this on Friday. Thanks I’ll keep this in mind.

]]> Comment on My Qualifier by Susan http://recoveryhelpnow.com/2010/12/17/my-qualifier/#comment-421 Susan Fri, 17 Jun 2011 16:24:40 +0000 http://recoveryhelpnow.com/wordpress/?p=585#comment-421 That term qualifier really doesn't sit well with me. The Alcoholic in my life told me if I wasn't such a b**tch he wouldn't drink so much. So I qualified him to become an alcoholic. I guess he really isn't responsible for using. I have had to learn to take responsibility for my behavior and the steps and recovery have allowed me to do that. My only qualifier is ME, I am responsible for my behavior healthy or unhealthy, it is my choice. I can't use the devil made me do it. That term qualifier really doesn’t sit well with me. The Alcoholic in my life told me if I wasn’t such a b**tch he wouldn’t drink so much. So I qualified him to become an alcoholic. I guess he really isn’t responsible for using. I have had to learn to take responsibility for my behavior and the steps and recovery have allowed me to do that.
My only qualifier is ME, I am responsible for my behavior healthy or unhealthy, it is my choice. I can’t use the devil made me do it.

]]> Comment on Not So Fast: Think Twice Giving Up the Precious Jewels by elana http://recoveryhelpnow.com/2011/06/05/not-so-fast-think-twice-giving-up-the-precious-jewels/#comment-355 elana Thu, 02 Jun 2011 23:55:47 +0000 http://recoveryhelpnow.com/?p=1135#comment-355 Tell me about your experience. When did you introduce sex when dating someone? What time was the magic time frame that worked best? Tell me about your experience. When did you introduce sex when dating someone? What time was the magic time frame that worked best?

]]> Comment on More About Mindfulness by elana http://recoveryhelpnow.com/2011/04/30/more-about-mindfulness/#comment-306 elana Sat, 21 May 2011 22:02:06 +0000 http://recoveryhelpnow.com/?p=1004#comment-306 I agree. I learned Mindfulness 12 years ago while working at a DBT clinic. It changed my life. I teach clients to utilize Mindfulness through their recovery process. Tools are key! Love hearing from you. Impressive site! I agree. I learned Mindfulness 12 years ago while working at a DBT clinic. It changed my life. I teach clients to utilize Mindfulness through their recovery process. Tools are key! Love hearing from you. Impressive site!

]]> Comment on 4th Step: The Big One by elana http://recoveryhelpnow.com/2011/05/21/4th-step-the-big-one/#comment-305 elana Sat, 21 May 2011 21:59:20 +0000 http://recoveryhelpnow.com/?p=1057#comment-305 We'd love to hear from you regarding your experience of the 4th step. What tools did you find to be helpful? We’d love to hear from you regarding your experience of the 4th step. What tools did you find to be helpful?

]]> Comment on More About Mindfulness by ginny winn http://recoveryhelpnow.com/2011/04/30/more-about-mindfulness/#comment-302 ginny winn Sat, 21 May 2011 01:51:41 +0000 http://recoveryhelpnow.com/?p=1004#comment-302 Possiblity: Mindfulness is a path to total awareness in the moment. The practice of mindfulness is the practice of being in the moment, or being aware in the moment. Mindfulness is always happening to some degree. The practice of mindfulness is challenging and wonderful : ) Possiblity:
Mindfulness is a path to total awareness in the moment. The practice of mindfulness is the practice of being in the moment, or being aware in the moment.
Mindfulness is always happening to some degree. The practice of mindfulness is challenging and wonderful : )

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