Comments for Recovery Help Now http://recoveryhelpnow.com Just another WordPress site Mon, 30 Apr 2012 18:12:19 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 Comment on Healing from Sexual Anorexia by elana http://recoveryhelpnow.com/2010/11/27/healing-from-sexual-anorexia/#comment-4004 elana Mon, 30 Apr 2012 18:12:19 +0000 http://recoveryhelpnow.com/wordpress/?p=563#comment-4004 We appreciate your response. I'm glad the story moved you to write about your experience. We have worked with many individuals who have transformed their sex lives after coming from horrible early experiences. We know the challenge, but we know recovery and transformation can happen. Please feel free to contact us at info@recoveryhelpnow.com if you would like to obtain services or gain a referral. We appreciate your response. I’m glad the story moved you to write about your experience. We have worked with many individuals who have transformed their sex lives after coming from horrible early experiences. We know the challenge, but we know recovery and transformation can happen. Please feel free to contact us at info@recoveryhelpnow.com if you would like to obtain services or gain a referral.

]]> Comment on Healing from Sexual Anorexia by Brian http://recoveryhelpnow.com/2010/11/27/healing-from-sexual-anorexia/#comment-4003 Brian Sun, 29 Apr 2012 17:36:05 +0000 http://recoveryhelpnow.com/wordpress/?p=563#comment-4003 I was glad to read this story. I'm a 45 year old male with Sexual Anorxia. I was also sexual abused and enjoyed the attention. As I progressed into my early teens, I began to act out with others teens and felt guilty because I new my behavior was wrong. I started using drugs at a early aged to cope. I'm just a little over 200 sober for the first time in 31 years. I am in treatment and feel hopeless that I can over come my sexual issues. I truly want to be in a healthy relationship. This story gives me hope. I was glad to read this story. I’m a 45 year old male with Sexual Anorxia. I was also sexual abused and enjoyed the attention. As I progressed into my early teens, I began to act out with others teens and felt guilty because I new my behavior was wrong. I started using drugs at a early aged to cope. I’m just a little over 200 sober for the first time in 31 years. I am in treatment and feel hopeless that I can over come my sexual issues. I truly want to be in a healthy relationship. This story gives me hope.

]]> Comment on What is a Healthy Relationship? (Pt. I) by elana http://recoveryhelpnow.com/2012/02/28/what-is-a-healthy-relationship-pt-i/#comment-3838 elana Mon, 26 Mar 2012 18:53:30 +0000 http://recoveryhelpnow.com/?p=2526#comment-3838 Thank you for the wonderful feedback. This is customized. Thank you for the wonderful feedback. This is customized.

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]]> Comment on Befriending Anger with Meditation and Guided Imagery by elana http://recoveryhelpnow.com/2011/07/21/befriending-anger-with-meditation-and-guided-imagery/#comment-1237 elana Thu, 20 Oct 2011 23:11:04 +0000 http://recoveryhelpnow.com/?p=1305#comment-1237 It's hard to create time and space. But, if you don't it won't happen. I usually get up first thing in the morning, sit up in bed and immediately meditate for 5 -10 minutes a day. I don't have a lot of time or energy to do more than that. It works for me and it helps with balance in my life. I see a huge difference when I do it versus skipping my practice. I encourage you to take baby steps and make it work with your life style. Every bit helps. You can take random deep breathes throughout your day. You will see a difference. It’s hard to create time and space. But, if you don’t it won’t happen. I usually get up first thing in the morning, sit up in bed and immediately meditate for 5 -10 minutes a day. I don’t have a lot of time or energy to do more than that. It works for me and it helps with balance in my life. I see a huge difference when I do it versus skipping my practice. I encourage you to take baby steps and make it work with your life style. Every bit helps. You can take random deep breathes throughout your day. You will see a difference.

]]> Comment on Having Difficulty Solving Problems With Your Partner? by Andrew Anderson http://recoveryhelpnow.com/2011/05/07/having-difficulty-solving-problems-with-your-partner/#comment-877 Andrew Anderson Sat, 10 Sep 2011 05:59:43 +0000 http://recoveryhelpnow.com/?p=1024#comment-877 Rather educative appreciate it, I do think your trusty readers would possibly want even more posts along these lines maintain the good work. Rather educative appreciate it, I do think your trusty readers would possibly want even more posts along these lines maintain the good work.

]]> Comment on Befriending Anger with Meditation and Guided Imagery by Tia http://recoveryhelpnow.com/2011/07/21/befriending-anger-with-meditation-and-guided-imagery/#comment-865 Tia Thu, 08 Sep 2011 20:37:09 +0000 http://recoveryhelpnow.com/?p=1305#comment-865 I had problems with meditation up until recently. I kinda couldn't focus. I guess being focused is what matters and that's why meditating doesn't work for everyone. I found a quiet place for me in my apartment and that gave me the extra focus I needed. It's way easier now! I had problems with meditation up until recently. I kinda couldn’t focus. I guess being focused is what matters and that’s why meditating doesn’t work for everyone. I found a quiet place for me in my apartment and that gave me the extra focus I needed. It’s way easier now!

]]> Comment on My Qualifier by Elana Clark-Faler http://recoveryhelpnow.com/2010/12/17/my-qualifier/#comment-475 Elana Clark-Faler Fri, 24 Jun 2011 20:57:14 +0000 http://recoveryhelpnow.com/wordpress/?p=585#comment-475 You're right. All individuals must take responsibility for their own actions. Their partners and families aren't responsible for their drinking. The term "qualifier" is used in the sex and love addiction recovery program. Alcoholics are addicted to alcohol and sex and love addicts are addicted to patterns of behavior with people. Sex addicts typically don't see someone as an individual. They see potential partners to act out sexually. Love addicts are in search of an individual to flirt or intrigue with or play out their fantasies. That is why the SLAA 12-step program came up with the term, "qualifiers." Probably not the best word, because it objectifies or can dehumanize him or her. Sex and love addiction is tricky because we are dealing with patterns of behavior that play out in relationships with others, not patterns of behavior with substances. I hope that helps clarify the term. You’re right. All individuals must take responsibility for their own actions. Their partners and families aren’t responsible for their drinking.

The term “qualifier” is used in the sex and love addiction recovery program. Alcoholics are addicted to alcohol and sex and love addicts are addicted to patterns of behavior with people. Sex addicts typically don’t see someone as an individual. They see potential partners to act out sexually. Love addicts are in search of an individual to flirt or intrigue with or play out their fantasies. That is why the SLAA 12-step program came up with the term, “qualifiers.” Probably not the best word, because it objectifies or can dehumanize him or her.

Sex and love addiction is tricky because we are dealing with patterns of behavior that play out in relationships with others, not patterns of behavior with substances. I hope that helps clarify the term.

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