When I was growing up, men worked and women stayed home with the children. My mother was an excellent seamstress. She spent most of her time gardening, cooking, cleaning, and carpooling children. My father focused on work, keeping the grass cut, being handy, and he controlled the money. There was no need for my mother [...]
Recently, I heard this statement during a group process, “I grew up in group.” A client talked about her transformation during a group process, starting in a place of anger and resentment to a place of release and search for passion. Prior to entering group this client talked about being highly reactive to others and [...]
This blog entry was written by an anonymous writer. Thank you for your story of courage, strength, and hope. Everyone recommended I attend a 12 step meeting. I resisted. I couldn’t see myself sitting in a room full of strangers baring my soul. I could barely do this with my therapist for the first 3 [...]
Marie’s Story Marie asked me to tell her story. I’ve changed her name for the purpose of this article. Marie came from a middle class Christian family from the mid-west. They appeared perfect on the outside, yet her family had many secrets. Marie was sexually abused multiple times before the age of 5 by various [...]
Recently Dr. David Ley has conducted interviews and wrote articles about his latest book, “The Myth of Sex Addiction,” due out March 2012. He has made comments saying psychotherapists who treat sex addiction are trying to fill their pockets with money by making up a disorder that doesn’t exist. I couldn’t believe what I was [...]
Recently, Robert Weiss, LCSW, CSAT-S who is a friend, colleague and previous supervisor was interviewed on the topic of sex addiction. Mr. Weiss provided education about sex addiction, while Dr. Ley tried (his hardest) to debate the existence of sex addiction. Mr. Weiss gave a compelling agrument. Dr. Ley’s statements were week and unsupported. Hear [...]
The holidays can be triggering for many people in recovery. You may have negative feelings towards family members (or they to you). You may associate the holidays with negative experiences. It’s particularly difficult when you have an addiction you’re recovering from. There are many opportunities to get sidetracked from your recovery plan. There are many [...]
It’s very important to create a schedule on your journey of recovery. You may find one of your triggers to acting out sexually was unstructured time. This is why it’s important to schedule your free time too. Many individuals like to use their phones and computers for their scheduling system or many don’t operate from [...]
With the rise of the smart phones sex addiction has changed rapidly in the recent years and months. The use of Facebook, phone apps, and the ability to “check-in,” gives sex and love addicts instant access to platforms to act out. I’m constantly hearing about creative ways people escape from their problems and stressors. You [...]
Don’t be too quick to have sex with someone you’re dating. Having sex too early in the dating process has proven to be ineffective in securing a relationship with many women I know and treat. If you looking for a fling, then this isn’t the blog entry for you. If you desire to have a [...]
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