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Building Self-Confidence

This blog post was written by Recovery Help Now’s, Cindy Nigro, MFTi.

Your perception of yourself has an enormous impact on how others perceive you. The more self-confidence you have, the more likely it is you’ll end up in a healthy and happy relationship and succeed in your career.  Although many of the factors affecting self-confidence are beyond your control, there are a number of things you can consciously do to build self-confidence. By using these strategies you can get the mental edge you need to reach your potential.

Communication:  Many people avoid speaking up because they’re afraid that people will judge them for saying something stupid. This fear isn’t really justified. Generally, people are much more accepting than you might imagine. In fact most are dealing with the exact same fears. By making an effort to speak up you’ll become more confident in your own thoughts, and recognized more by women and others around you in general.

Gratitude:  When you focus too much on what you want, the mind creates reasons why you can’t have it. This leads you to dwell on your weaknesses. The best way to avoid this is consciously focusing on gratitude. Set aside time each day to mentally list everything you have to be grateful for. Recall past successes, unique skills, and loving relationships. You’ll be amazed how much you have going for you and motivated to take that next step towards finding love.

Style:  Your outward image is the only way you can convince people you don’t know that you are worth something. This doesn’t exclusively mean your clothes, though they are a small part. It’s how you carry yourself that really matters. The only thing that matters is your attitude, so if you’re even a moderately good actor, you can convince almost anyone that you’re worth the effort. Maybe you can even convince yourself.

Workout:  Physical fitness has a huge effect on self-confidence. If you’re out of shape, you’ll feel insecure, unattractive, and less energetic. By working out, you improve your physical appearance, energize yourself, and accomplish something positive. Having the discipline to work out not only makes you feel better, it creates positive momentum that you can build on the rest of the day.

Do you struggle with self-confidence?   We’d love to hear feedback on what helps you to gain confidence.

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